Leggings Are Not Pants

by Meredith on September 16, 2014

If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it 2,567 times.

Leggings are not pants.

I was hoping I would stop seeing this trend. But instead, I see more camel toe than I can stand on a daily basis. I see it at the grocery store, I see it at the bars, heck I even see it in the workplace (OH THE SHAME!).

It used to be just young girls who were confused about leggings being pants. But I’ve noticed the trend drifting into the 30-something and 40-something crowds. Ladies, our older ham wallets have seen some things. We shouldn’t be confused about leggings being pants. We’re too old for our hotdog hallways to be flapping around like this.

Anyway, fall is back. It’s the best season for clothes, in my opinion. And we’re all excited to put on our comfy leggings and knee-high boots!

But I don’t want you to get confused and fuck this up and leave without pants. You need a long shirt/tunic/dress to cover your cookie if you’re wearing leggings.

So I’ve made you a little picture to help you decide if you should leave your house in your leggings…

dont leave your house

You forgot to put on pants.

The only people who should wear leggings as pants are babies and toddlers.

You’re welcome. 

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Takedown Culture

by Meredith on September 4, 2014

I’ve noticed something very disturbing in the past few years, and it just keeps getting worse.

Social media has developed this nasty place of taking each other down.

We love nothing more than to see a thread of comments, 152 deep, where people are ripping each other apart and being nasty. And when we show up to watch it all go down, we post funny little memes like this:

jLZz4NaBecause Michael Jackson eating popcorn is funny. Heck, I’m guilty of it myself.

So even when we aren’t involved in the tearing down of others and their ideas, 152 comments deep, we want everyone to know that we are watching it go down like giant assholes with a bag of popcorn. We just have to put our two cents in, even if we don’t have a dog in the fight.

But why are we like this as a culture? Why do we want to see people fail?

As someone who puts so much out there on the internet, I’m often criticized for my opinions… and even my appearance. I expect it. I was the one who decided to build a business and a brand around social media. This comes with the territory.

But what about you? You didn’t expect to be beaten up online. And even though I expect it, it still blows.

Last week a very nice woman posted that she was done breastfeeding, and then a bunch of women jumped all over her.

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It’s a little odd that we care so much about what others feed their babies. Don’t you think?

Anyway, I think this takedown culture is overflowing into our personal lives. Social media and everyday life are so intertwined, that we call each other and talk with our mouths, on the phone, and gossip about something we saw on Twitter.

Again, I am guilty of it myself. My husband pointed it out to me the other day.

Meredith, I know your feelings have been hurt. But damn, this isn’t the Real Housewives of Facebook. Enough. You’re better than this. Men don’t act this way. Why do women? 

And you know what?

He’s right. Men typically do NOT act this way! This is a girl thing.

Which sucks because I’ve always been a girl’s girl. Until suddenly I realized that I was being the opposite of a girl’s girl… I was being a mean girl.

I need to change. The change is really freaking simple.

Are you ready?

If I don’t have anything nice to say, I’m not going to say anything at all.

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I’ve created 10 rules I will now follow to be a less shitty person. I hope you’ll join me.

10 Anti-Takedown Rules for a Girl’s Girl

1. Every status update doesn’t require my weigh-in or snarky comment.

2. I’m doing my best as a mother and wife, so are you. Let’s accept this about each other. No family is the same. Everyone struggles. We are all unique snowflakes. I’ll support you, even if it isn’t something I would do.

3. I refuse to ever drunk dial a girlfriend again and gossip about another girlfriend. I hope you’ll join me, because I’ve heard what you’ve been saying about me and to me. You are guilty, too. Super. Guilty.

4. My husband is also not someone I can gossip to, even though I feel safe doing so… because gossip is gossip. Period.

5. This doesn’t mean I won’t have an opinion. It just means I will voice it on my terms, and not all over your Facebook wall (or behind your back) like a total asshole.

6. I never ever want to intentionally hurt someone’s feelings.

7. I won’t ignore you when you could use some help. Meaning, I will stand up for you. That’s what nice girls do for other girls.

8. If we have beef, I will tell you. It won’t be a secret (not that it ever was with me, you always know where you stand, but I won’t rehash it with anyone else).

9. I will be nice to everyone. EVERYONE. No more getting away with bad days, saying I have a bitchy resting face, or wearing my emotions on my sleeve. Being a bitch is not fair to those I encounter throughout the day, or my children, or my husband.

10. I’m going to listen more and talk less.

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I want to be a great example of how a strong woman behaves for my daughter. It’s important to me.

If any of this hit a chord with you, or pissed you off, you probably should take a good hard look in the mirror. The truth hurts, and I’m glad Shaun Soleau pointed out the problem. It was me. I am the problem.

So will you join me? Will you also stop contributing to the takedown culture?

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#VoicemailsAreDumbStopLeavingThem

August 21, 2014

I don’t normally look this stressed out, but when I do, it’s because I have 1,383 unheard voicemail messages. No, for real, I am going to prove it to you: Stop it with the voicemails. I know I can’t be alone on this. #VoicemailsAreDumbStopLeavingThem

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Sex every single day? #GTFO.

August 18, 2014

Shaun: “Huh. Yet another woman is on the news who had sex every single day with her husband.” Me: “I call BS. And why is this even newsworthy? I’ll tell you why – because it’s unreal.” Shaun: “I want sex every single day.” Me: “Good luck with that.” There seems to be this new trend. Sex [...]

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The Medium

July 24, 2014

After a long talk with Shaun, I had decided not to make this a blog post and open it up for the entire world to see. There were personal and professional reasons for this. Instead, I wrote about this experience in this forum for women, and the questions kept rolling in. As the days have [...]

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Sunday Funnies: Husbands & Dinner

July 13, 2014

Super Nanny keeps things running smoothly around here. With her help, it’s all very Pleasantville. But sometimes I’ll send her home early if I’ve worked late the night before. This is how my husband reacts on the “send-Super-Nanny-home-early” days: His confusion is adorable. Is this how your husband reacts to lack of dinner?

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Everything fell into place. #GirlPower

June 6, 2014

I’m not selling cars anymore. I know, shocking. I was really good at it, and I enjoyed it, but something just wasn’t right inside of me. I was unsettled. I felt like something was calling me. Probably the aliens (but Shaun says I am not allowed to talk about my alien conspiracy theories online – [...]

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#CampThrowback (also known as: #WTF have I agreed to?)

May 29, 2014

I’m so agreeable when it comes to Brittany Gibbons. Seriously. This woman should sell cars. BRITTANY: Hey, I am hosting this social media camp thingy, and I want you to be a camp counselor. ME: Cool! What sessions do you want me to teach? BRITTANY: Well, it’s more like a non-conference that’s four days, where [...]

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Everyone’s a food critic.

May 19, 2014

Those chips are fattening. Are those on your diet?  This is what a man said to me the other day, as I was eating a bag of chips from the vending machine. I responded by simply licking my fingers. I shouldn’t have to explain my food choices to anyone, or even feel the need to [...]

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Should I hire a realtor? Probably. Otherwise it will wind up like the time I thought I could tile my shower by simply watching YouTube videos.

May 16, 2014

This is my master bathroom shower. Two years ago, Shaun and I decided that we could rip out the fiberglass installed shower (SUCCESS!) and install a tile one… ALL. BY. OURSELVES. BY. WATCHING. YOUTUBE. VIDEOS. (FAIL!) This other time we patched our wall after watching YouTube videos. YouTube videos are great for learning things like The [...]

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